banyak orang bertanya kepada saya, pria seperti apa yang bisa menaklukkan hati saya. semakin ditanya, semakin saya bingung karena saya bukanlah orang yang bisa menaruh kriteria teman pria saya ke satu kotak pilihan tertentu. apalagi status saya yang masih tetap jomblo karena saya belom menemukan pria yang pas di hati saya. kata teman saya mungkin karena saya terlalu “picky” dan punya “high expectations”. sebenarnya sih tidak, buktinya saya tidak punya kriteria tertentu dari seorang pria yang akan mendampingi hidup saya kelak. tapi saya selalu bisa “turn on” terhadap seorang pria yang bisa menyeimbangi jalan pikiran saya. pria yang percaya diri, mempunyai rasa humor yang baik, dan memiliki rasa apresiasi tinggi terhadap karya seni, jalan hidup, dan agama.
seperti halnya ketika si A yang mampu membuat saya terpesona dengan keahliannya membuat musik yang indah. detak drum yang dimainkannya membuat saya terkagum-kagum setiap melihatnya di atas panggung. atau si B, yang mungkin saja bukanlah seorang pemusik, tapi mampu menilai karya seni dengan baik. dia mampu bertukar pikiran dengan saya ketika membicarakan ttg karya sastra. dari bahasan ttg shakespeare, sampai ke flm2 independent karya sineas2 baru. bagi saya, apresiasi seni yang tinggi adalah cermin atas ke sensitif-an dan rasa respek seseorang terhadap hasil karya orang lain. plus, i think it’s sexy. itulah sebabnya saya amat sangat tertarik pada pria yang mempunyai apresiasi terhadap karya seni yang tinggi, walopun itu bukanlah hal yang mutlak. contohnya mantan saya si C. dia bukanlah seseorang yang bisa menilai karya seni dengan baik, tapi dia adalah seseorang yang sangatlah percaya diri, independen, dan smart in life. unsur yang terakhir adalah hal yang juga sama pentingnya. karena saya bukanlah tipe wanita yang menyenangi pria karena image yang dia berikan ketika bertemu pertama kali. saya tidak suka dengan pria metrosexual yang lebih mementingkan tampilan tapi tidak diseimbangi dengan cara berpikir dan kepribadian yang baik. menurut saya, seorang pria yang bisa menghadapi tantangan hidup dengan kemandiriannya jauh lebih baik daripada seorang metroseksual yang hanya memikirkan penampilan tapi kosong kepribadiannya.
tetapi semua kombinasi semua tidaklah berarti apa-apa jika saya tak punya chemistry yang baik dengannya. nah.. mendapatkan chemistry ini yang ternyata tak semudah yang dibayangkan. kalau dipikir, chemistry berawal dari cara berkomunikasi yang baik. dan saya selalu menginginkan pria yang mampu berkomunikasi dengan saya. entah lah itu komunikasi dalam bahasa keseharian, ataupun komunikasi tentang hal-hal yang serius. dan kalau kita sudah "nyambung", apapun kekurangannya, rasanya bisa tertutupi dengan chemistry yang membuat saya comfortable untuk berlama-lama dengan si dia.
lalu bagaimana dengan urusan fisik? well, walopun bukan hal yang utama, saya tidak mau munafik karena tentunya saya akan lebih tertarik kepada pria yang indah untuk dipandang. tapi jangan salah.. indah itu relative, dan indah untuk dipandang belom tentu dia harus bertampang seperti jude law, berperut kotak-kotak seperti brad pitt, dan punya senyum menawan seperti tom cruise. tetapi cukup dengan kesahajaan, bersih, rapi dan wangi, sehingga saya betah untuk berdekatan dengannya terus. paling tidak, saya tak mau dong punya pacar yang badannya bau. nah .. sampai saya menemukan si dia yang memenuhi kriteria yang saya inginkan, biarkanlah saat ini saya memimpikan jude law, kali aja dapet yang mirip beneran. kan seperti kata orang bijak, “bermimpilah yang tinggi, karena dengan mimpi kita punya motivasi untuk mengejarnya menjadi kenyataan.”
[this is a "made-believe" article i wrote that was published in indonesian men's health magazine on january 2005. yes, it was over a year ago... and since then, i have found my "jude law"]
:: sLesTa
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:: Monday, April 24 ::
>> GREEN LAYOUT
someone said that she needs to get used to my new color because i've been having my "maroon" layout for the past 3 years. someone said that this green is to bright, it just does not reflect who sLesTa is.
well, my friends.. green is my favorite color. it has been for times now, but i never dared to put green as my layout, cuz i like the warmth of my "maroon" layout.
but i insist when i asked loucee to design me a new "face". a face just to give new refreshing self in the "new" city. it doesn't take her a long time to create a new "face" for me, though it took me a while to finally be able to have it up and running. and it's still not yet done. some mac users may find it disturbing to see the shifting of the below part of the page. sorry. still trying to fix it. i even had a fever over it. :)
well, there will be some new improvements (i hope not a lot!). but if you miss my "maroon" layout.. well, new town, new face, new life... new layout! i make peace with it, so should you.. heheh ... :)
*tootles*
[update] finally, i have completed all the necessary improvements. no more shifting layouts and hopefully, you can read the words better. stick around, y'all! :)
:: sLesTa
>> posted on 4/24/2006 05:33:00 PM | [
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:: Wednesday, April 19 ::
>> VISIT TO GYNO
this morning, a good friend of mine sent me a link to this article from jane magazine. at the bottom of her email, she wrote, "that reminds me, i haven't checked myself up at the ob/gyn this year. please make an effort to get a check-up once a year yaaa!!!". and yes, it does remind me that i haven't gone for a while too.
after reading the article, there are a lot of things going on through my head. the article talks about a scary experience told by a girl who died from cervical cancer who didn't realize that she had it, even after the regular check up to her gyno. but what i thought most was that, being in indonesia, i know that not many girls are not accustomed or well informed about the regular schedule going to OB/GYN (gynocologist or usually shorten for "gyno"). the idea is, well, if you're not (yet) married then you don't have to go to OB/GYN. if you're unmarried, then you are inexperience in sex, so why would have to go to check yourselves up? but.. how about other non-sex related matter? like breast cancer, of example? well, i understand that unlike in the developed countries, going to the doctor is already a luxury for most of us in indonesia. let alone going to the doctor for check up. but we cannot lead a blind eye. it's happening all the time. if one can have the access to go to these regular check up, why not?
but sometimes, people like to think it otherwise. an unmarried girl going to OB/GYN must be because she's no longer a virgin, or wants to have an abortion, or maybe pregnant. but that's not always true, it has nothing to do with all that! it's just the thing about our society that still makes it taboo to talk about sex. personally, i think sex education is very important. that's how young people can be responsible on their sexual experiences. don't be naive lah.. young people have high hormones, therefore they are very curious. they want to experiment. the way i see it, if they don't know the risks of their experiments, then it's such a dangerous thing to have. while if these young people were given the sex education, they would probably think twice to experiment, and even if they go through with it, they would experiment it reponsibly. and that's the most important thing.
i honestly think that we cannot do things the old way where you make it taboo to talk about sex, then you forbid these young people to have sex.. just because. you cannot forbid them no more without giving any good reason why they have to listen to what you say. you have to make them understand why it's forbidden in the first place. besides, i think it all comes from their own self. what you can do is to make them understand. teach them about religion (whatever religion it is..), guide them, and make them become responsible human beings. it's the guidance that's important the most, not laws. that's why i don't agree with RUU-APP. i mean, you can't make a law on how people think, though i do agree that pornography law should exist, tapi bukan berarti it's standardized only from one angle. karena di indonesia ini yang tinggal bukan satu tipe komunitas saja.
anyways.. not to further about religion and the RUU cuz that's a whole different subject. what i'm saying is that, even the best behaved kids are curious. bukan berarti kan kalo anak baik2 would not experiment sex before marriage? no matter how hard the parents say that you should not do it, bla bla bla... kalo emang anaknya curious, and the opportunity is there, one can always find a way. buktinya banyak kejadian kan sekarang2 ini yang tekdung lah, abortion lah, padahal masih SMA, dan banyak juga yang berasal dari keluarga baik2! i even know a girl who got pregnant with her boyfriend, padahal she comes from a very strict family. jangankan sampe hamil diluar nikah gitu.. to know that she has a boyfriend aja kayaknya tuh udah yang a big deal for her family. but it happened. and she and her boyfriend, have to be responsible for that, being a young married couple with kids. being young and married is already hard enough, can't imagine if you're young, married, and with kids.
i just think that people who are given the information about the risks, the understanding about why you should not have sex yet, or even answering their curiosity through learning, they would probably appreciate the idea of "sex before marriage" thing. and even if they decide they still wanna do it, at leasstt.... they're being responsible. that's the idea kan. tapi ternyata hal ini bukanlah hal yang popular among the elders in our society. pokoknya no sex before marriage. tapi alesannya kenapa? no one explains thoroughly why. trus emangnya kalo have sex before marriage, resiko nya apa? gak pernah tuh dijelasin.. ya wajar lah kalo makin banyak yang curious.
let's face it.. though it's still taboo to talk among the society, we all know that it's happening all the time. jangankan sex before marriage, sex affair between married people juga banyak, dan itu malah lebih parah. people sometimes don't think about the risks of sexual transmitted disease (STD). the STD alone should make people think before doing it. at least it makes them to be really responsible on their actions in their sexual experiments. it's just too scary to think about these diseases.
so, the fact that girls should check themselves out to OB/GYN every year.. bukan berarti karena dia hamil (in or outside of marriage), karena STD, or any sexual related issues aja kan? how about breast cancer? it has nothing to do with sexual experience, but if you got it, you just have it. that's also one of the things the doctors check during the regular visits.
reading the article, i find it hard to believe that the girl is only 28. yes, she had had sex with different partners and that's the risk she had to take, but what taunts me the most is that she had visited her OB/GYN regularly, and all the tests came out okay. she is being responsible, but she found out too late.. and she was not considered within the risk that the cancer could get her, but she got it.
so there's no excuse for not visiting your OB/GYN if you want to be healthy. and that reason alone, is enough.
:: sLesTa
>> posted on 4/19/2006 05:00:00 PM | [
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:: Monday, April 17 ::
>> BLOGGING
since i started blogging, i never really keep track of how long i've been doing it. i see people celebrated their blog, but i never do. not that i don't want to, i just don't remember. well, yes, if you see the archives, you'll find that my first blogging experience started in january 2002. the fact is, i was blogging even before that, although it was mostly a group blog. if i have to look back... it was a good friend of mine who invited me to my first blog experience. a bunch of us just started working in new york city. most of us didn't know each other through college. through friends, we met, and manhattan gathered us. having to go through the same experiences... just started a job in manhattan, living with your own expense, the hype of earning your own money and don't know what to do with it, the wonder what to do after work, and so on and so forth... these experiences bonded us. we used to hangout everytime we can.. but only on weekends. being the professional that we are (yaahaa!), we rarely met during weekdays... but we did communicate through email. since there were a lot of us (i don't remember how many of us! but at least it was almost 10 headcounts), we used to exchanged mass email messages everyday. it was a fun intermezzo in between our hectic days. after a while, one of them, a good friend of mine, found out about blogger and created a page for us. the idea was to share our daily experiences at work at one group page instead of exchanging email every half an hour. yes, after a while, those emails can be quite annoying. the blog was properly called "manhattan corporate slaves". it was fun for me to start writing there. unfortunately.. i ended up being the other person (other than the creator) who actively updated the blog. after a while, it went dead.
that's when i started to think.. maybe i should have my own. and there it was, in early 2002, i created my own blog and finally posted my first entry in my own blog. i had no idea how popular it would get... blogging in general, i mean. back then, not many people know what blog is. the community of bloggers, especially indonesian bloggers, was still very small. in fact, we may even know each other quite well as we interact by visiting each other's blogs on daily basis. some were even becoming friends in real life. over the years, i do get to know many of them, met them in person... many become real friends, this girl even became one of my dearest friends, many i've only chatted or emailed each other regularly, but never met due to location, even one became my co-worker, though we no longer work in the same office now.
right now, blogging is as popular as ever. i see new blogs published left and right. and the used-to-be-close-knit group of indonesian bloggers, have expanded into a wide group. it's good, i guess, but i barely know anybody now, except for those who've blogged at the same time, if not earlier than i was. not to mention that i just don't have as much time as before to be in front of the computer and surf the blogs. my blog has experienced hiatus (finally!).. and back! people ask me how am i able to keep updated my blog. well, it's just a habit, i guess. i got used to write things.. write my thoughts, write what i feel... i just can't think of doing it anywhere but through blog, though i don't do it as often as before now.
not too long ago, during my hiatus period, i finally felt the urge to start writing again. even though i created a hiatus blog, i rarely updated it.. and it was just not suitable for me because i know it was a temporary page. i also ended up trying to visit some of the blogs i used to visit everyday. but since most of them i have forgotten the url addres... i google them by typing in "slesta". of course, i found many of my "old" blog friends. surprisingly, i found this entry. of course, i know who he is. we used to discuss things sometimes even involve in lengthy debate over some silly subjects,.. though i never met him in person. what surprises the most, he actually puts my blog as the top 5 of his most favorite blogs. i was really surprise by this, because i thought no one really remembers that my blog exists anymore, especially since i started missing from the blog world. and his comment was just really sweet...
"sekarang alamat barunya saya lupa. browser lagi kacau, sehingga gak bisa saya trace. tapi dulu, ketika sLesTa masih di New York, tulisannya selalu menyenangkan. pada masanya, dia adalah blogger indonesia yang top. sekarang aja seleb pada bikin blog, dulu sih blog membuat dia jadi seleb."
aahhhh... the good old days. though i'm not so sure how blog makes me a celeb (heck i don't even know that the term applies to me!) but i do know one thing.. i definitely miss blogging even more. and so i decided to come back! i miss my old "fun" writings too...
:: sLesTa
>> posted on 4/17/2006 02:17:00 PM | [
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:: Tuesday, April 11 ::
>> PLAYBOY INDONESIA
seperti yang dikatakan pujangga legendaris "apa arti sebuah nama?", kayaknya agak2 jadi kenyataan dengan heboh terbitnya majalah playboy di indonesia tgl 7 april kemaren. edisi perdana ini, covernya berupa foto andhara early dalam bentuk seperti pas foto biasa. di dalamnya memang terdapat beberapa foto dalam pakaian minim & pose2 menarik.. but not more sexual than any other magazines like FHM, maxim, etc. yang udah lebih dulu terbit di indonesia. malah kalo di banding2kan dengan benar, kayaknya edisi perdana playboy ini masih sangatlah "sopan".. apalagi kalo di compare nya dengan tabloid2 gak jelas yang suka di jual2 di perempatan lampu merah. tapi kenapa amat sangatlah heboh ya?
well, of course.. karena nama besar playboy yang di negara asalnya menyuguhkan tampilan wanita2 dengan pose seksi dan tanpa busana itu. memang, kalau kita liat dari nama dan track recordnya.. kita akan mikir.. kok bisa2 nya playboy masuk ke indonesia, di negara yang "katanya" sangat timur dan menjunjung tinggi nilai2 kenormaan ini. dengan alasan kalau tampilannya akan di modifikasi dengan tampilan yang menjunjung norma2 inilah makanya penerbit playboy indonesia tetep nekat untuk menerbitkan edisi perdana mereka.
tapi tetep aja.. bukan berarti gak ada yang protes!!! orang indonesia gitu loh.. yang sekarang kayaknya semakin hari semakin senang ama aksi demo, tentunya akan mendemo apa pun juga. bukannya berarti gak bagus.. but that's another different subject. yang gue gak ngerti, mereka men-demo dan mengecam edisi perdana playboy ini, sampai2 melaporkan playboy indonesia ke polisi dengan tuduhan pornografi. nah, yang gue ga abis pikir.. okay, of course, i strongly against pornography, tapi kita liat dong.. apakah benar edisi perdana itu consists of pornography? gue ngerti kalo pihak2 tertentu ingin menutup playboy supaya gak terbit lagi karena resiko mereka untuk tiba2 menerbitkan foto tanpa busana itu, akanlah mungkin. tapi.. kita ini negara hukum dimana kalo ingin melaporkan sesuatu, ya mesti ada buktinya. bukti pornografi nya mana? karena ada pose2 tertentu yang pake busana minim. itu pun menurut gue masih wajar kalo dibandingkan dengan cewe2 yang pergi ke mall dan bisa bikin gue geleng2 kepala kalo ngeliat mereka. trus belom lagi kalo emang playboy itu bersalah.. lalu majalah2 laen yang lebih parah kok gak dilaporin?
yah gue sih sebenernya bukan orang yang ngerti hukum banget.. though i've lived in a country where laws are strongly obliged by its citizens. tapi dari mata awam gue, gue agak2 sedikit terganggu juga ngeliat demo sana sini itu. belom lagi acara demo ini bener2 bikin orang laen susah. yah jelas aja.. mereka sampe pada pergi ke toko2 buku, dan ngegerebek toko2 itu supaya menghancurkan eksemplar2 playboy yang ada di stand toko2 itu. kalo pas gue lagi di toko itu.. kan bikin sebel? orang enak2 lagi nyari buku .. eeehh.. ada yang rame2 bawa2 tongkat trus tereak2 nyari majalah, trus di robek2....?? kan serem bo! lagian apa hak mereka? mereka kan bukan polisi atau regulators resmi di negara ini? and even if they are, bukankah yang ada di toko punya hak untuk belanja dengan damai, ato toko yang punya hak untuk ngejual majalah itu? lah wong itu majalah resmi kok? but why put the rules under their own hand? selaen itu.. sebelom playboy akhirnya menerbitkan edisi perdana mereka.. bukankah itu berarti mereka sudah diberikan ijin sebagai penerbit? kalo mau protes.. ya sama yang ngasih ijin dong.. dan secara pribadi, gue bukannya ngebelain playboy.. gue juga sebenernya gak setuju mereka masuk di indonesia, tapi karena mereka udah dapet ijin.. ya mereka emang berhak untuk terbit. dan ketika edisi perdananya itu bisa dibilang gak "parah" amat.. gue gak abis pikir kenapa mesti diributin? though gue tetep curiga.. mungkin aja sih awalnya yang "sopan"... tapi kan.. ya kita ngapain ribut kalo emang belom ada apa2? is it for precaution matter? then don't give them the permit to publish the magazine in the first place! isn't that simple?
yah pokoknya gue sih sebenernya bingung aja. apa sih yang jadi masalah? just because the magazine carries a "playboy" name? sementara majalah laen yang dengan nama berbeda, tapi menampilkan foto2 dengan pose yang sexually inviting dan busana yang lebih minim.. it's okay??? and have you ever even read those other magazines? i don't know about playboy ya.. since i didn't get the copy myself.. tapi i've read other franchised mags yang terbit di indonesia.. heck, even the indonesian tabloids.. not just the pictures yang parah... contentnya itu lebih parah dengan artikel2 yang suggest about sexual positions, sexual orientations, sexual preferences, how to get sexual, how to please your girl/guy... gilak!! itu asli lebih parah!! and these magazines are being read by teenagers!! menurut gue kalo emang mau protes.. tuh, hal2 kayak gitu yang di protes... yang jelas2 terbukti!!
and besides.. personally, gue pikir itu hanya ngabis2in energi aja demo urusan kayak gitu. kayak RUU anti pornografi & pornoaksi.. bukannya hal itu gak penting yaa, tapi kenapa itu sangatlah heboh diribut2kan sih? sementara, gue gak pernah tuh denger demo yang meminta pemerintah supaya lebih perhatiin ttg rakyatnya yang kena busung lapar. how about today's headlines yang menyatakan 50% rakyat indonesia masuk dalam kategori miskin? kok ga ada yang protes minta supaya pemerintah lebih merhatiin hal2 seperti itu? not once i heard of it. maybe there is a demo about it, tapi kok gak seheboh demo2 ttg playboy atau UU pornoaksi itu ya? i just wonder... is it because you can't take care of your basic necessity anymore.. might as well divert everyone's attention and take care of the pleasure necessity first? it's just plain weird! can anyone explain it better?
[this post does not mean to pinpoint any specific entity, just a general idea about the demonstration and the writer's questions about the whole blow-up about it. so please don't take it as my personal opinion to attack on specific thing, because basically, this is just a thought, a question, a wonder that i like to share]
rgds, :: sLesTa
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:: Thursday, April 6 ::
>> WEDDINGS
since i moved back home, one of the activities i have to accustom on weekends is to attend wedding invitations. almost every week, there would be an wedding invitation, sometimes even a couple of weddings in the same day. i always hate to come to one of these, especially when i don't even know the bride & groom. but of course, when the wedding is celebrated by my dear friends whom i know personally, i always make sure i attend it. along with these invitations, there are things i have to get used to. the fact that people are dressed up nicely, paired-up to show off that special someone they're coming with, meet up old friends (then surprised that you have common friends), and so on and so forth. but the most annoying part is that when you come just by yourself, or with parents (for those family friends' wedding type of thing). i always hate it everytime my mom asks me to company her to a wedding. but since my dad travels most of the time, of course, i become her date when there's a wedding she needs to attend. it's not that i don't like socialization, but wedding is just not the place for it.
the first thing that i think about everytime there's a wedding invitation is that i just don't know what to wear. when i already have a nice outfit picked to go to these weddings, it's not enough since there are too many of those weddings around. and of course i can't keep wearing the same thing everytime i go. so then i have to spare my shopping budget to buy the "appropriate" clothing to come to the wedding.
secondly... everytime i go to these weddings, especially when i go with mom, she always want to make sure i dress up nicely, with nice makeup and hairdo. and what for? we only go there to drop the envelope and pen our names in the guestbook. wait in line to greet the bride & groom, then lining up to taste the food. possibly chatting with the other attendees if happens to be someone we know. biasanya basa basi ga penting, unless it's someone we really know closely. and all that, usually takes about 1 hr or less. but the prep? it's just too much of prep time.. that's all i know.
now this is the most annoying part. if you come by yourself, people will look at you weirdly as if that you should be coming with someone.. but still the question will arise.. jadi kapan giliran kamu?. when you come with your parents, the questions are asked in front of them, sometimes they even compare it with their children or even sounding up an informal invitation for their child's upcoming wedding. and when you finally do come with someone, say .. a friend, who happens to be a guy.. they'd ask.. "is this your boyfriend? when is he gonna be your husband?"... they don't want even to listen that HE'S ONLY A FRIEND WHO I BROUGHT TO COMPANY ME TO THE WEDDING. *sigh* and when i finally do come with a boyfriend, the question still arises. "jadi kapan nih undangannya dikirim?". for godsakes.. we've only been going out for 3 months.. and you just met him! at least give us a break. susah ye?
well, those are basically the three things that annoy me everytime. but that doesn't mean that i wouldn't go, it's just that i have to get myself prepared for all those every time... and after a while, i got used to it. now, i just don't give a sh*t. if i don't have anything else good to wear, i try to be creative and find some old stuff for mix n' match. if i don't feel like going to the salon for a hairdo, i go with the safe one -- tie them up in ponytail. and if they ask me that question.. simply i just answered, "doa'in aja ya.." atau "undangannya masih di cetakan nih, tapi lagi pending soalnya designnya belom beres.. namanya baru ada satu.. heheh.." and so on and so forth.
however, there's one thing that i cannot accept. for me, when you have a wedding, it should be sacred because it's the most important moment of your life. whether you will have a nice small wedding or a big glamorous one, it's entirely up to you. but at least, have a respect to whom you are inviting. i mean, if you want to invite your old friends, try to get their names and addresses and send them the invitation. i hate it when people send their wedding invitation through sms or email, i mean it's fine when it's addressed personally, since they probably did not have enough time to look for the actual address to send the invitation, just don't send it in a mass message.
the other day, a friend from high school had a wedding. she asked one of our friend to send the scanned wedding invitation to the mailing list, expecting that everyone would come. she knows each of our phone numbers as we have this montly "arisan" where almost everyone in the mailing list attends. if she's too busy to call us, at least email us personally. hell.. at least send us the invitation from your own email address, not asking another friend to send the email and attached the wedding invitation. i understand that you don't want to miss anyone out. but if you don't really mean to invite someone.. it's better not to invite them at all.
but then i also know that weddings are a family event. i've attended indonesian weddings only after i got back, but i've attended some of the american weddings back in new york. since the price of having these kinds of events are very very high in the states, they usually limit the weddings to the closed ones, unless you're really freaking rich. the invitees are usually not more than 100 people.. even that is already a great number. and when the invitation is sent out, they request the guests to return the invitation back to them as to notify them that they will come and if they're coming with a guest, so that they will reserve seats for them. oh yeah, the weddings are usually full seated where everyone is assigned a seat at a table.
i know i can't expect these kinds of weddings in indonesia, but i find it more warm, more socialized and more fun to do it that way. and i bet the bride & the groom are having fun at their wedding as well, and not exhausted from standing up and greet thousands of their guests :)
if only...
:: sLesTa
>> posted on 4/06/2006 10:29:00 PM | [
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>> TEASER POST
hey you guys...
no, don't be afraid. it's still me. just me changing color... =D. and yes.. i'm back! you see, for the past weeks, i've been craving to write and write more, but since my site is on hiatus, i tried to put my posting here. however, i don't really like to put too much, cuz i won't be able to compile all my writings from that site to this main site.
the reason why i have to put up for so long.. is because my layout is having a facelift. unfortunately, it takes longer than i thought and it's not even done! so, as a teaser, i upgrade this layout a bit and hopefully, the new ones will be done soon enough. (yeah.. a certain someone still owe me something.. you know who you are!)
so without further ado... hopefully i can be true to my words.. i'll be updating this site more often than the past year.
it's good to be back!
rgds, :: sLesTa
>> posted on 4/06/2006 01:51:00 PM | [
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:: Tuesday, April 4 ::
>> PRIVATE
for those who know me in person, you know that i'm a private person. i don't tell about my private life when i found it's unnecessary for people to know. i'm good at keeping secrets.. somehow it's realized by people close to me that they would tell me things - personal things. though, i don't like my personal life to be mixed with my professional life and i tried that it should be separated no matter how. even those who are regular readers of slesta.com back when blogging was not as popular as now.. you know me damn well that i always remain anonymous unless i get a chance for personal encounter with you.
not once i use my real name, though, many has found out. i insist to use my online name on any correspondence. and i'm very very glad that people respect to this.
however.. akhir2 ini i found it a bit disturbing to hear the news about the secret marriage ceremony of glenn fredly & dewi sandra. udah bukan rahasia lagi kalo mereka menikah kemaren, tgl 3 april. semua orang udah tau. tempatnya dimana juga udah tau... yang kurang cuma satu, pengakuan langsung dari kedua belah pihak. of course, it's their rights not to publish this. i totally agree that if they want it to be private, then they should have it privately. unfortunately, in their case... there's no such things as private because of their status as public figures. kuli tinta & paparazzi kayaknya pada betah banget ngejar2 artis untuk urusan kayak gini. urusan nikah, hamil, melahirkan, selingkuh, si ini pacaran ama si itu.. kayaknya jadi tontonan sehari2. yang bikin gue bingung kenapa sih hal2 seperti itu yang diberitakan.. kadang2 malah yang ga penting banget kayak kebiasaan gigit kuku seorang artis. duh plis deh...
ok enough complaining about those paparazzis. it's a whole other topic. what i find disturbing about the whole mess of glenn-dewi piece, is that people around them denied... yes, DENIED.. that they were arriving in bali for the wedding. malah dengan terang2an mereka bilang kalo mereka ke bali buat liburan. duelah.. do you think we're that stupid? i mean, OK lah mereka trying to protect dewi & glenn, tapi kenapa juga mesti berbohong kayak gitu.. gak mutu banget lagi jawabnya. at least have the dignity to tell it the way it is. but to respect the public.. ya paling gak kasih aja jawaban kayak jawabannya adjie notonegoro waktu ditanya sapa ayah anaknya mayang. simply.. "alah.. kalian kayak gak tau aja? udah pada tau kan? kok pake nanya deh... ". it's simple, not stupidly trying to cover up the truth, it's casual yet not too revealing... and it is the truth.. we all do know who he is.
kayaknya itu udah jadi kebiasaan para artis infotainment di indonesia deh. btw.. there's a different between artists and artis infotainment. artists create arts. artis infotainment adalah selebritis yang the only "art" they create is to make themselves up to be ready for the infotainment cameras and denied everything. gue ga betah aja liat mereka selalu deny something yang obviously true. contohnya...
media: "mbak, katanya mbak udah nikah sama pengusaha J ya?" artis: "enggak.. saya dipelet sampe mau ama dia"
yeah, di pelet ama mobil & diamonds nya. plissss dehhh!!
that's why i respect those who still have honor to tell the truth, how bad and hurtful it is. like roy marten who got caught carrying drugs. he never said that it wasn't his. dari awal dia selalu bilang.. itu emang punya dia, dia emang salah, dan dia pengen tobat. yeah well, maybe it's a little too late.. but admitting is the beginning part of the recovering. ask any AA members. ato kayak wulan guritno & ananda mikola yang waktu ditanya apa mereka udah putus.. mereka jawab, iya,.. kita sekarang temenan. cukup. dan kita pun juga udah ga peduli lagi. karena toh mau ngapain dikejar2 lagi.. udah kejawab. kalo sampe ditanya kenapa putusnya.. baru deh bisa ngeluarin hak privasi mereka.. cuz it is a private matter.
anyways.. these celebrities are just like normal regular people... they have their private lives even though it's under the microscope of the public eyes. we should respect their privacy, and they should keep their private lives private... but at least they should do it with dignity, not with lies.
i don't know about you... but this is what i think. i know this is such a useless subject, tapi gue gemes aja tiap hari ngeliat berita infotainment ttg dewi & glen, sampe yang udah kayak detective aja nyari beritanya.. duh... lagian kalo emang beneran nikah, kenapa juga ga mau ngaku sih? but then again, it's their rights. keeping it silent is much better than lying to the public.
