almost everyday, i'm involved in this email chain with a good friend of mine. we emailed each other about everything, just as intermezzo in between our busy hours through the day. sometimes it's only a one liner message asking if i'm still at work, where i went for lunch, where he went for lunch or how his girlfriend been. some other times, we would be discussing one subject the whole day, sometimes it's very fulfilling and refreshing to share, sometimes it's just pure "curhat" session from both parts.
just like on last v-day. the email started early in the morning when he asked what are my plans for tonight. since we both know we're not so hyped up about the whole v-day celebration thing, i just said that i might go out with my man, or i may just go home straight, depending on my workload or my boyfriend's workload. my friend said that he'd probably hang out with his girlfriend, but don't know where.
then i teased him a little if he's bought a flower for his girl. then he answered... "do i really have to? i mean.. i never give a flower to my girl before, but is that gesture a must?"
surprising really .. that he's never given a flower to his girl and they've been going out for almost 2 years. but i know plenty of guys like that. and i myself, don't really expect that from a guy. well... honestly, i do, but i expect more on the sincerity than the must-have-because-everyone else-is-doing-it gesture.
so i replied to him.. "to me, it's not a must that a guy gives a flower to a girl. i'm not a typical romantic girl. at least, these kinds of things are not big deal for me. but as a girl.. honestly, i think if the moment is right, and you (a guy) want to give a flower because you WANT to and not because you HAVE to... it means much more than anything. for example.. say.. i don't get a flower from my man on v-day, it's no big deal for me.. but if all of a sudden he gives me a bunch of lilies because he was walking on the street and saw that there's this flower girls selling such beautiful lillies and he remembers me when he saw those flowers... so he buys them and gives them to me.. THAT would mean much much more to me than if he was giving me roses because it's valentine's day. you get what i mean? but then again, it's me... and i can't say that on behalf of the rest of the entire girlie world.. you then have to ask your girlfriend her opinion on this."
the next day he replies.. "i didn't see any flower girls on my home from work yesterday.."
somehow.. i'm not surprise...
:: sLesTa
>> posted on 2/16/2006 01:40:00 PM | [
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:: Monday, February 13 ::
>> THROUGH THE DISTANCE
in any point in our life, most of us have gone through what's commonly known as "long-distance relationships". many have gone through this, or maybe even still is in one. many are OK with the situation, many are strongly opposed to the idea. i myself never really been in one. at least not in different countries. but i couldn't imagine how hard it would be to carry a long-distance relationship. jaman sekarang mungkin lebih enak, cuz the technology is more advanced with the messenger or sms. but still i can't imagine to be in this type of relationship.
i used to think that i will be OK to be in that kind of relationship. but then i realized.. humans are communicating creatures. even when we see each other all the time, we have trouble communicating properly. sometimes you don't even communicate with the person who sits in the cubicle next to you, or the person standing with you while queueing for taxi, or worst, you sometimes forgot to communicate with your own parents or siblings. though i'm not saying this applies to everyone, i know it wouldn't apply to me. cuz sometimes i forget to communicate verbally. i don't know exactly when it starts, but i got to the point where i don't want to talk on the phone unless it's necessary. my used-to-be-long email messages, now is shorten into only one or two lines.. just enough to say something without saying too much. now imagine what i'd do if i'm in long distance relationship! bisa2 pacar gue lupa that i'm exist.
so now i change my mind. long distance won't work for me. i don't think i can handle one.
but then a friend asks me.. what if you find someone you really love that you believe that he's the one, but then he has to move far far away from you?
i stumble to answer this question ... but then i think if he's worth keeping, then i'll do the distance with him. cliche.. but if we're meant to be, we'll go through it together. how? i dunno, but i guess we'll find a way to do it. i'm just still crossing my fingers it wouldn't happen to me, though.
