kata orang tua (indonesia), kalo udah mau nikah itu banyak hal yang mesti dijalani. dari luluran tiap hari, mandi air kembang lah, dipingit gak boleh keluar rumah lah, pokoknya banyak deh. di awal2 persiapan hari perkawinan gue, gue udah diwanti2 kalo biasanya cobaan dateng untuk pasangan yang akan menikah. bisa cobaan dengan pasangan, dengan keluarga, dengan orang tua, and so on. tapi alhamdulillah, sampai sekarang, cobaan terbesar gue justru bukan datang dari keluarga. menurut teman2 gue,
i'm the most laid back bride-to-be... soalnya bener2 nyantai. gak keliatan lagi sibuk mempersiapkan pernikahan. sama calon suami pun, hubungannya akur-akur aja. lebih sedikit ada ketegangan, justru sama orang tua, tapi itu pun masalah kecil dan gak jadi gede2 banget.
tapi, justru cobaan terbesar gue dateng untuk urusan kerjaan. sampe detik terakhir gue di kantor, sebelom cuti, i literally stay in the office late, every day. jam pulangnya tuh bisa sampe jam 10 malem,
every day!!. soalnya gue lagi ngerjain project that needs to be finished before i leave for the wedding. tapi akhirnya gue udah ga mikirin apa2 lagi ttg persiapannya. untungnya, i'm blessed with parents who would actually take care of the preparation for me.
satu cobaan lagi datang untuk urusan pekerjaan. since i'll be moving to singapore after the wedding, i requested for a transfer to the singapore branch. request nya udah dari awal tahun, tapi sampe seminggu sebelom gue cuti, baru negosiasi salary nya. sementara gue udah deg2an, bakal kerja dimana pas pindah disana. secara gue orangnya ga bisa diem, jadi the idea to stay home and does nothing, really beyond me!. so i had other interviews with other companies. it went well, but they made slow progress. so the day before i left, i finalized the salary negotiation with my current company's branch in singapore, and left feeling calmed that everything's settled.
then, yesterday, everything blows up in my face again. right after i sent in all the documents and sign in the dotted line of the offer letter... i got a call from that other company. they keen to pursue the offer with me and give me a nice position... with salary 15 thousand (in sing dollar, annually) more than what i just finalized.
ini mungkin bukan termasuk cobaan kali yah, tapi i really had to make decision. in one hand, i had signed the paper and it's being delivered to singapore office. while on the other hand, i get an offer that i just couldn't resist. it's too good.
tapi untuk offer yang udah gue terima, it's the same company i'm working for now, so the systems and work environment are familiar to me. plus, i have the most wonderful boss when i'm in jakarta, and he helped me find the position. so i really owe him.
akhirnya gue kirim email ke boss gue yang kebetulan lagi di vietnam. gue minta advise nya dia, karena gue ga mau dia ngerasa di back-stabbed after all he's done for me. plus i don't want to make my decision based on compensation alone.
i was right. i do have the most wonderful boss. he called me right away and he gave me his insights, but left the decision to me. he even said, "
under no obligation that you should take the position in our branch in singapore. you don't owe me anything, so don't base your judgement on it... the other company gives you 15 thou more, and it's not something you can ignore.. "
gue bener2 terharu ama kata2 dia. after all he's done for me, dia tetep bilang kalo gue gak berhutang apa2 ama dia, dan dia akan ok2 aja kalo gue ngambil kerjaan yang lain. sebenernya gue gak akan mixed my feeling with work. but i'm experiencing something that's truly wonderful here. not everyday you'd work with such a wonderful boss. and i'm lucky.
and that being said, with some other things in mind.... i decided that i keep the job (yes, with the lower money). why? cuz there's something principal and ethical about it. the fact that i have signed the paper, means i have given my word. and that's a promise. i don't want to go against that, it's just against what i believe in. i am true to my words and i intend to keep it.
dan cobaan itu lah yang terbesar buat gue. cobaan untuk memilih menepati janji, atu memilih janji dengan iming2 duit yang lebih banyak.
that sounds like a marriage vow for me already. i hope i did make the right decision. and definitely, no regret.
2 weeks ago, my girlfriends threw me a bachelorette party. it was just an intimate dinner with friends who gave me recipes to handle marriage (duh!). it was hillarious, but it was wonderful (no, no male-stripper!). i'm lucky to have such friends. thanks, girls!! 
:: sLesTa
